Become an Oriented to Love Dialogue Facilitator

You’ve attended an Oriented to Love dialogue as a participant and want to understand better what makes dialogue work and how you can extend it to others. You care about helping the church (or even just your closest family and friends) have a true conversation about sexual/gender diversity—not a debate or a sermon, but a true conversation.

We provide an annual Oriented to Love facilitator training because the need for this kind of open-hearted conversation around issues of sexuality and gender continues to grow. Our goal is to help equip you to shape and lead effective dialogue in your own geographic region, church, and/or circles of influence, because these experiences have the power to build bridges of healing and relational love.

Please note: You must attend an Oriented to Love dialogue before you can participate in a facilitator training.

We limit the training to 12 participants, so your registration will be accepted on a first-come, first-served basis. If you are hoping to be trained, please sign up as soon as possible. Thank you!

Some of the things we’ll cover at the facilitator training include:

  • Know thyself: Hosting life-giving conversations across deep difference starts with understanding who you are
  • Hospitality: Why welcoming and caring for the “other” is essential to unity in the Body of Christ
  • The power of a good question: How to craft (and help others ask) dialogue-nurturing questions
  • Dialogue 101: What fosters civility, curiosity, and compassion
  • Leading well: The role and responsibilities of a good facilitator

We’ll also discuss how to lead with vulnerability and invite Christ into the center of the work. We will model and practice dialogue exercises and conversation while reflecting on the goals and outcomes as we go. The training will be highly interactive, experiential, and discussion-based. What you bring to the training is just as important as what you will take away from it. The weekend is also designed to be a time of rich fellowship, worship, and community-building through mutual vulnerability, hosted in a setting of contemplative beauty.

Please note: As you know from participating in a past dialogue, Oriented to Love is for Christ-followers who are committed to respectful and loving dialogue and are willing to do the hard work of building community among people who disagree. This is beautiful, sacred, and exciting work that is not about persuasion, correction, or instruction but about taking the time to discern Christ’s presence in the other and trusting the Holy Spirit to guide each of us.

Those who wish to become a certified* Oriented to Love facilitator and to host/facilitate future dialogues under the Oriented to Love banner are required to complete all the pre- and post-training requirements, which include reading and reflection beforehand and written reflection and evaluation afterwards, as well as a live dialogue assist.

*Certified trainers will receive the following:

  • a recommendation letter (and the ability to list ESA as a reference)
  • the right to use the Oriented to Love logo and materials when planning/facilitating dialogues
  • requests, as they arise, from ESA to include applicants/conduct a dialogue in their particular region
  • ongoing counsel and encouragement, as needed, from ESA

If you have any questions, contact Kristyn Komarnicki.


  • November 3 – 5, 2017 (Fri-Sun)

Where: Cranaleith Spiritual Center, Philadelphia, PA


  • Kristyn Komarnicki, founder and lead facilitator of the Oriented to Love dialogue
  • Francesca Nuzzolese, Oriented to Love spiritual director, professor of pastoral counseling at Palmer Theological Seminary


  • $300 (covers all meals, lodging, and materials)
  • Registration deadline is September 30, 2017 (but only 12 spaces are being offered, so your register soon!)

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